What holds more weight? Your Sun or your Moon?
In our charts, the idea is that our Moon is our Mother and our Sun is our Father.
If your Sun is also your ego, you might say that most people with a damaged ego have had a bad relationship with their father.
If your Moon is also your emotions, and your emotions are damaged, you might say it was through a bad relationship with your mother.
Carl Jung had a lot to say about narcissism, and the lack of a father (figure). What is narcissism, but a damaged ego that one tries to fill with absurd amounts of praise and recognition from strangers, while damaging others close to you, so you feel on top? True narcissism comes from the Sun, not the Moon. (The damaged Moon may be cold or a psychic vampire, but it will act out for the damaged Sun, not in spite of it).
The Sun and the Moon’s weight in your life, make sense when you look at it this way:
Mothers carry you in their womb for 9 months. When you come out, your mom has to think you’re the bomb. If she doesn’t, you’re deeply sad for life, effecting your moon.
Now your father doesn’t have to love you right away. As babies, we don’t expect him to. He never knew you the way your mother did. But! He has to want to get to know you, and then like you, and then eventually he has to love you. And that will give you a heathy and strong ego. If he runs away from you, you will take it personally, and won’t feel worthy.
Most of us have some combination of the two. We take care of our mother’s emotions instead of allowing them to take care of our fragile child emotions. We tell our fathers that we admire them, and they can’t even give us a congratulations when we win, or tell us it’s going to be okay when we lose.
Some mothers and fathers lie to their kids about the other parent. Creating confusion in the child’s life and ultimately damaging their ego and emotions–Giving the children crazy charts to live with forever. Perception is everything in a chart, and lies skew perception.
If you are a single parent, don’t feel down about this. A child of a single mother, may not have the strong ego, but they know what emotional strength looks like, and they will act with valor. The child of a single father, may not know how to express themselves emotionally, but they believe in themselves, and they will feel worthy. They will always search for the missing piece, so it’s important to also show them what it looks like through your own actions, and dating, etc.
I grew up with both parents, and I still never felt like my dad liked me. Hence my intercepted sun in Libra in the 7th. As I got older, I saw his own damage, and that he clearly did love me. And I was able to build my ego back up in a healthy way, without looking for a relationship to heal that pain.
When I see a damaged Sun and Moon I immediately want to talk about your parents. They are what made you, and they need to be addressed before you can heal anything else.
So yeah. I’d say they hold equal weight in your chart.